I think we all at some point along our parenting journey, have wished for ways to take the easy way out. Perhaps we just wanted to save some time, money, hassle or even spare ourselves from having to listen to one more meltdown. Regardless of the objective, it seems that one particular style of parenting has found a few short cuts:
Attachment Parenting is what I lovingly at times refer to as “lazy parenting”.
- Rear facing the car seat for longer than a year, because who really wants to move that darn thing once it has been properly installed?
- Homeschooling, only to avoid the carline at school drop off and pick up!
- Breastfeed to lose the baby weight, let’s face it – exercise is the last thing we want to do!
- Home birth, just to avoid hospital food!
- Baby wear, because pushing a stroller makes us sweat!
- Cloth diaper, because who wants to go to Walmart for diapers?
- Natural labor to reduce medical expenses!
- Intuitive parenting because we don’t want to read parenting books!
- Co-sleep, because who on Earth wants to get out of bed in the middle of the night?
- Not circumcise, because no one wants to look at a bloody penis!
- Baby-led weaning, because pureed food makes a mess!
- Not vaccinate, because who wants to spend money on a doctor’s appointment?
- No plastic toys, because who really wants to put together a 1,200 piece Lego fire station?
- Breastfeed because a diaper bag full of bottles is so heavy!
- Amber teething necklaces, because who wants to give Tylenol every four hours?
- Comfort nurse, because who wants to look for a pacifier at 3:00am?
- Breastfeed, so you can enjoy having big boobs without getting a boob job!!!!
- Eat your own placenta to reduce medical waste!
- No TV, because no one enjoys watching Peppa Pig and Dora over and over again!
- Not vaccinate, because who wants to expose their kids to the germs at the pediatrician’s office?
- Breastfeed, because who wants to spend money on formula?
- Co-sleep, because it helps you avoid this problem again, (wink wink)!
- Intuitive parenting, because who wants to take advice from their relatives?
And that is what I love about parenting, it is not a “one size fits all” concept. We all make choices based on what will best fit our family’s dynamics. When we started having kids, our parenting style didn’t have a name, so I lovingly called it “lazy parenting”, but apparently many of the aspects of our parenting falls under the grand umbrella of “attachment parenting” – personally I prefer to call it “intuitive parenting” – regardless of the name, it is what works for us.
But I think when parents can call their style “lazy parenting” that’s when they are doing it right for their family. Parenting is hard enough as it is, so the choices you make should feel easy, feel good and come straight from the heart – like something you were meant to do all along!