Here we are, at the cusp of a new year. Many are tempted to subscribe to the old adage “out with the old and in with the new”. But I am thankful for “the old” and all the wonderful events 2013 put in place for our family. I feel that this past year was the start of so many incredible happenings, setting the scene for 2014 to be a continuation of all that is great in life.
However, I realize and acknowledge that some of my friends suffered great losses and had incredibly tragic events happen. My heart broke several times during 2013 as people I love lost children, or had their children get hurt in various ways. I can only hope that their healing will continue in 2014, and that they feel my love and support for them, each and every day.
So many of us create a set of resolutions that we vow to stick to throughout the new year. But all too many either forget their promises to themselves, or simply just give up after just a few days or weeks. We make vague attempts to transform ourselves and the world around us. Trying to lose some pounds, save dollars, organize the house… all good efforts to make our lives a little better in the coming year.
I also made a list of resolutions last year, but I wanted to make them simple enough so I would stick to them. I did not have any lofty ideas of dropping several dress sizes, becoming proficient on the cello or learning to speak Mandarin. I rather wrote down four items that felt natural for me to work on or improve. Items that I WANTED to work on out of my free will, and not because they fit into a fad or fashion trend.
So here’s my list for 2013:
- Increase our savings account
- Don’t sign up for too much
- Healthier food habits
- Write more
And I am proud to say that not only did I succeed at all four items, but the list also remains relevant for 2014. I have decided to keep it my current list of resolutions – or rather promises to myself.
- Increasing savings can also be interpreted as “spending less”, which is something I am consciously working to improve upon. Instead of always buying new, I have been buying used, borrowing, or simply just gone without. All these efforts have resulted in an increase in our savings account.
- Not signing up for too much was the most challenging item at the beginning of 2013. But then I got pregnant and nature just took care of things, by leaving me exhausted at the end of the day. I reminded myself of the resolution and also the promise I made to my husband of taking good care of myself and the baby. I started to feel less defeated when I said “no”, but I felt rather more empowered. For once I was doing something good for me and baby – instead of saving the world. I learned to “control my inner-Oprah” as my husband likes to call it.
- Healthier eating habits happen automatically at the first sign of a positive pregnancy test. I wouldn’t claim to do a complete 180 degree change in my diet once I become pregnant. But I am more aware of what I eat, how much, how often and I will at least consider healthier alternatives. Once I have the baby and start breastfeeding, my food choices will continue to be healthier than when am not nursing, or even when I nurse an older toddler. So as we enter 2014 I will continue my natural health-kick, hopefully long enough for it to just become a permanent way of life.
- Well, I had high hopes of writing more in 2013. Sitting down with the laptop in front of me and just letting my fingers dance across the keyboard, as my jumbled thoughts become complete sentences is something I love. I am fascinated by the power of the written and spoken word. I enjoy writing, hence the reason why I started this blog – to establish a creative outlet for my thoughts. It is a journey I just recently embarked upon, but I am already in love with the process of creating words for others to read – and hopefully enjoy. Therefore this last resolution is as relevant in 2014 as it was in 2013.
We set the wheels in motion a number of times in 2013. Started big “projects”, which are blossoming, and we will reap the rewards in 2014. All the more reason for me to look forward to the new year. We started building a house, or rather a home, which will become the epicenter of our lives for the next many years. We anticipate a completion date in late February or March – just in time for the newness of springtime to warm our hearts and give us a renewed outlook on life. Moving into our new house, a home built specifically to our taste and needs is an event I can’t even describe with words. I feel incredibly blessed and happy.
Just a few short weeks before we close on our new home, we will welcome the arrival of our fourth boy. The little man who will truly complete our family. I am so lucky to already feel like I know him well. However, meeting him in person, holding him close and sharing him with my husband and the other boys is an event I am SO excited for.
Bringing a new baby home always causes some upheaval in the family dynamics. The younger ones are left to “grow up” a little quicker than they would like, and the oldest have a new set of responsibilities. For a relatively short while, mom and dad will barely have time to look at each other for just a few seconds, without feeling pulled in different directions. But as we all work together to adjust to our new roles, we are at the same time exhibiting the greatest amount of love and consideration for each other – in all the little things we need to do to navigate this new sense of normal. I almost look forward to the sleepless nights, so I can fall in love with my family all over again as I watch each and everyone of them sleep close together.
All in all, 2014 will be much of a continuation of 2013. Hopefully all of our unfinished projects of the past year will culminate in the most beautiful finale – an event so grand that it is NOT marking the end of numerous smaller events, but rather a reason for new beginnings and the continuation of all things HAPPY in our lives.
I wish each and everyone of you a year of new beginnings, great opportunities, chances worth taking and risks worth running. May all the puzzle pieces in your life fall into place to reveal the most beautiful tapestry of happiness! Happy 2014!