The women who often are overlooked on Mother’s Day are the ones we should blame or thank for everything we hold dear. Celebrate your mother-in-law.
This Mother’s Day, let’s take a few minutes to acknowledge and give thanks to the unsung heroes of motherhood. The women who often are overlooked on this special day are the ones we should thank (or blame) for everything we hold dear in our own lives.
Our very own mother-in-law!
Without her selfless sacrifice of raising our beloved husband, we would not be initiated into the sacred circle of motherhood. To this woman we owe the world, or at least so it seems. Send your Mother-in-Law a REAL thank you note today!
I reached out to my Facebook followers to hear what they are grateful to their mother-in-law for. The response was overwhelming. I decided to make my favorite replies into greeting card sentiments. In case you are at a loss for words this Mother’s Day – or any other day of the year, please use this list as inspiration.
Feel free to mix and match these messages as they apply to your personal situation. These are anonymous quotes from my FB followers and friends.
Lovely and feel-good sentiments:
- You are loved for so many reasons: your awesome pasta sauce recipe, our fun talks every week and raising an amazing son who is a great father and husband.
- I love your son, my husband. I appreciate the fact that you are one of my children’s favorite play mates, and that you are not more annoying than my own mother.
- I am happy every day because of the way you raised your son, the most amazing man I have ever met, and how you accepted me into your family.
- You were a part of our daily lives when we were going through the most difficult situation. Your help was invaluable.
- Thank you for adopting my husband and helping him become the man he is today.
AND THEN THERE IS REALITY… Use the following at your own
Fill in the blanks from the options listed below.
Dear Mother-in-Law, from the bottom of my heart, …
- thank you for taking your meds.
- thank you for getting my name right, most of the time.
- I appreciate that you only pay attention to your son when you visit. It gives me much-needed alone-time with the kids.
- thank you for cleaning all the things I “wouldn’t know needed to be cleaned.” (I am STILL wondering what they are!)
- thank you for helping me learn how to cut my elders some slack… a lot of slack.
- I enjoyed the red lip stick kisses you left on my kids’ cheeks. (Thankfully, I no longer panic thinking it is a weird rash.)
- thank you for drinking all my wine. Or wait – maybe I drank it all in anticipation of your visit. Either way, I am off to buy some more.
- please remember that “circumcision” and “cesarean” are NOT one and the same thing. They should not be used interchangeably, it may cause confusion.
- I loved the spreadsheet you made for me, of all the things I had to do before my wedding.
- it was really wonderful having you sleep on our couch instead of you staying at a hotel after we had the baby.
- you are great at not dropping the baby.
- thank you for being absurdly high maintenance. You make me look like a saint.
- thank you for confusing words like “enema” and “vaccine”. It makes for a great conversation. (Editor’s note: neither cause autism!)
- I thank the Lord that you live 5 states away, I think we get along much better that way.
- thanks for the parenting advice but I live with a child you raised and yeah….. that’s not really working out for me.
- I appreciate the “delayed umbilical cord clamping” on your son. But I think after 35 years you can cut off.
- your gift of not speaking to us has ensured that we are a drama-free family. Thank you.
- thank you for raising your son to put his wife first, above everyone else, including you!
- my husband is still recovering from all your unsolicited advice, intrusive behaviors and the fanatic evangelical upbringing.
- I appreciate you letting me use “your” recipes. You know, the ones that I follow to a “t”, yet they don’t turn out the same as yours. My husband will always like your version better.
- thank you for not telling me what to do.
- I love that you at least knock before unlocking our door, when you come over unannounced.
- thank you for teaching me how NOT to be a mother-in-law!
It is my sincere hope that this list will help start a dialog between you and your mother-in-law. Perhaps one that can heal old wounds, remove bunions, recover lost wages and bring peace to the world – or at a minimum ensure that your Thanksgiving Day meals are less painful.
Regardless of your relationship with your mother-in-law, remember that it is the bond between you and your husband that matters the most.
Happy Mother’s Day to you – and all the matriarchs in your life!
How would the card to your mother-in-law read?
P.S. If you have read this far and if you are my mother-in-law: Thank you for SO many things – the biggest one being your son!