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10 Things Other Parents Need to Know About ADHD in Girls

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I am excited to share this article with you about ADHD in girls. The ten questions featured in this series of “10 Things Other Parents Need to Know About…” are answered by a mother with ADHD about her young daughter, also with ADHD. This is incredibly insightful, empowering and educational. Please share this post with any of your friends who may looking for answers about their daughter’s behavior and possible struggles in school. Knowledge IS power. Here are the 10 things other parents need to know about ADHD in girls. 

10 things other parents need to know about ADHD in girls. Insightful, empowering and educational article written by a mother with ADHD about her daughter with ADHD.

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10 things other parents need to know about ADHD in girls: 

1. In hindsight, my child’s symptoms were: Those of a typical toddler but amplified.
a.) Oh she was a great multi-tasker as a toddler, she could watch TV, color, and play with dolls, all at the same time.
b.) She could not follow one task commands, like getting her shoes from the other room. She would go with full intention and somehow end up playing along the way.
c.) She was very aggressive. She would bump over other children to get to what she wanted, not in a mean way, just in an “I am on a mission” way.
d.) She would explore beyond her immediate area, a couple of times I caught her wandering off, down the block.
e.) She used to talk to strangers and not have any fear.
f.) She did not need a big nap. She would nap for 15 minutes at a time and be ready to explore again.

By the time she was in Kindergarten I was almost certain that she had ADHD.

g.) She would write beautifully but at times, completely in reverse.
h.) She found it hard to play with other kids because they wanted to play the same games over and over, and she would be bored with them.
i.) Her performance levels where very erratic. Her kindergarten teacher said one quarter her reading level was normal and the next quarter it was way below grade level.
j.) When I would sit with her to do homework she would constantly look somewhere else, redirecting her focus was hard.
k.) She was also stubborn and would constantly ask why I was telling her to do something, in a highly oppositional way (beyond normal).

2. The specialist who helped us the most: By chance I happened to see a study being conducted by Children’s Hospital in Seattle on “Moms With ADHD and How They Parent Their Kids With ADHD.” They had me come in and they did an extensive questionnaire by a Child Psychologist who diagnosed her with ADHD.

3. The specialist we didn’t expect to need: A Behavioral Family Physiologist. She taught us how to communicate in a positive way and how to get better results with parenting when our child has ADHD.

4. It took us this long to get a diagnosis: Well, since most ADHD behavior is hard to differentiate from toddlerhood, it took us until she was 6 years old.

5. The biggest financial expense because of this medical condition is:
a.) Family therapy and getting a diagnosis are very costly appointments. Thankfully since we qualified to be in the Children’s study, they were free for us. An added bonus was that we got to see a top-of-the-line child psychologist.

b.) Medications can be super costly with ADHD medications running at $300-400 dollars a month easily (without insurance). However, we did not start meds on her for personal health concerns. (This is a great list of ways to help your child with ADHD to focus without medication.)

6. The organizations that helped us: ADDitude was a great resource for general information. Also meeting with other parents and getting their support was very helpful.

7. Things I wish my friends and relatives knew:
a.) How hard it can be to have ADHD, that just yelling at a child who can’t pay attention is not helpful.
b.) That the “everyone does that” response is maddening. You are not in my child’s head, you do not know what it is like to feel Distracted/Inattentive/Hyper.
c.) That if I do not become her biggest supporter it can do huge damage to her self-esteem.
d.) Sleep, nutrition, and exercise are the best upkeep for a person/child with ADHD but not always.
e.) Don’t judge if you hear of a mom who chooses meds for her child, maybe not what I would do, but I am not in her shoes.
f.) It has a highly hereditary predisposition, chances are that one or both parents also have it.

8. Our ray of hope:
a.) We moved to a highly accepting school and her teacher has been very accommodating and willing let her have a fidget (something she can hold and move around in her hand so that it helps her pay attention.)
b.) Also understanding the diagnosis and focusing more on the gifts of ADHD instead of the downfalls. As an example: creativity. She can come up with inventions that even wow me. Her hyper-focus on subjects she loves is beyond incredible. She wants to own her own business. She is a passionate child.

9. Our biggest cheerleaders and supporters: Her Dad (my husband) has been so understanding. He has not called this diagnosis crazy and has stood behind us 100%, it helps when you have such a great cheer man. I can’t forget my sisters, I love them to pieces; it helps to have someone I can talk to and just diffuse my anger at the world.

10. I wish I had known:
a.) How controversial this diagnosis is. We read everywhere about how over-diagnosed ADHD is. But that does not diminish the importance of a mother’s observations, and her intuition.
b.) ADHD is often diagnosed along with another diagnosis (comorbid diagnosis), like sensory processing disorder, anxiety, oppositional defiant disorder, and learning disabilities like dyslexia.
c.) Medication might be essential, but I am choosing a natural alternative because my child can’t tell me yet how she feels. Medications can have very negative effects such as mood shifts and suicidal ideation. When a child does not know what they are feeling it can be detrimental. I have taken meds and can tell you if they are not a good fit. They can make you feel like someone is drilling in your brain. Wait until your child can tell you how the medications make them feel.
d.) Hard to make happen but very important; have your child sleep well, eat nutritious healthy food, and get plenty of exercise.
e.) Also keep close open communication between your child’s teacher and specialists to make sure they are aware of your child’s progress or lack of progress for early intervention.

I hope these insights from not only a mother’s perspective, but also from an adult with ADHD are helpful for you, in your quest for answers and resources for your own child.

In the comments, please share your biggest challenges, and where you are turning for help. Perhaps your comment will help someone else going through the same thing.

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  1. Agape Ima says

    December 11, 2015 at 6:31 PM

    Oh how I wish my husband understood some of what goes through mine and my daughters heads. We are close to people who sadly do misuse the diagnosis so it’s not something that’s talked about much in a positive light here. I love the ADDitude 100 helpful hits. I took the ones that meant the most to us and wrote them down with a title “Have a better day” put in front of my planner so I can look at it often.
    http://www.additudemag.com/100-adhd-tips.html

    • Mama in the Now says

      December 11, 2015 at 8:48 PM

      I am so glad you found some good information on that website. I hope you can share it with your husband. GOOD LUCK!

  2. Samantha Suttles says

    January 20, 2016 at 3:06 PM

    Thanks for the information! My daughter just turned 5 years old, and it is my mother’s intuition that she has either ADHD or something similar.

    I am going to see a specialist, but want to look into natural ways instead of medication. Anything you would suggest?

  3. Erica L. says

    February 22, 2016 at 6:29 PM

    I am in tears. My daughter has increasingly had a tough time in kindergarten. We’ve been suspecting ADHD and with her therapist have an unofficial diagnosis. She came home in tears today because she’s been yelled at so much. This article has completely restored my faith that it will be ok- I just need to hold strong and do my research.

  4. Olive says

    April 1, 2016 at 9:47 PM

    I agree with everything except 10c. Saying not to judge about medication and then writing a huge statement against them is contradictory. That section is missing a lot of very important information about ADHD medication and is very biased.

  5. Margret Gledhill says

    April 2, 2016 at 6:32 AM

    I have a daughter with ADHD, ODD, borderline dislexic, she was diagnosed as an 8 yr old. I knew from when she was four, I just couldn’t get anyone to believe me. The psychiatrist recommended medication. She took them until she was 17, at that time we discovered she was also Bipolar and that needed treatment more than the adhd. I have talked to her about the medication she took for so many years because I wanted to find out what she would advice other parents with children with adhd to do. She said she was really thankful for the medication because they were the only thing that made her able to concentrate on something, she said her head was a jumble of thoughts which she had no control over until she was medicated. Just wanted to share our experience of medicating children.

    • Mama in the Now says

      April 3, 2016 at 7:51 AM

      Thank you SO much for replying. I am so glad you had a good experience with medication. Personally, I have heard many success stories about medication, especially in children with regard to their school performance. I hope your daughter is doing well today.

  6. Loretta Brown says

    April 3, 2016 at 11:50 AM

    Is it possible for a child with ADHD to become a doctor?

    • Mama in the Now says

      April 3, 2016 at 10:22 PM

      I would definitely think that a person with ADHD can become anything – the sky is the limit, but that’s also why a proper diagnosis is important.

    • Mary Taylor says

      May 6, 2016 at 3:11 PM

      Yes, it is totally possible. I’m a doctor and have adhd since childhood. ADHD is a disregulation of focus, so it also comes with the gift of hyper focus, which can really help in medicine. Good luck!

    • Melissa says

      December 11, 2019 at 8:23 PM

      I work for a surgeon who has ADHD. So it is absolutely possible! And he’s a fantastic one at that!! 😁

  7. Amie G says

    January 8, 2017 at 9:12 PM

    It took one evening for my husband to study with our 9 year old daughter for him to understand this was real. Or when he took her fishing and repeated many times the same instructions. I am the primary supporter here, she was diagnosed and went through testing and was given tools by specialists at restore behavioral health in San Antonio, TX. We have given her special one on one tutoring as well.

    But what we have found to work is just what you say here, support, positive reinforcement and tight connections with school counselor and teachers. Using all resources such as 504 in public school and staying home after school to be here for her when I pick her up from school. Chunking homework and after reading we revisit all websites asking different questions about books she has read to help her remember the next day for a simple quiz.

    I have taught high school students with ADHD and never thought this would be my child needing this assistance. Now, just a few years in knowing what we do she is confident and is performing at an average level. Use your free resources and as someone told me at the beginning of this struggle, “If it was you, and you were facing a serious disease of complication, what would you do to help solve it?” Do not be hesitant to try new things and get help.

    Good luck to you and your precious angel.

    Amie G

    • Mama in the Now says

      January 11, 2017 at 9:54 PM

      Amie, Thank you SO much for sharing your personal experience. I wish you all the best with your daughter. I am glad your husband also saw the observations you had made.

  8. Maria says

    October 8, 2017 at 4:01 PM

    It helps me to know that there is more parents just like me looking for a answer to help our children. Trying to figure out a way not to put them in medication.

  9. Bobbi Lauderman says

    November 26, 2017 at 1:47 PM

    Perfect summary and exactly what I’ve went through with my 6 year old.

  10. Izabella says

    June 14, 2018 at 11:36 PM

    I live in Romania, my daughter has ADHD and it is not very well known or accepted here. We are lucky to have found a great child therapist. I love the fact that you emphasize the importance of sleeping and nutrition. Other moms here see me as a freak because I limit my daughter’s screen time, the sweets she eats and because she has a schedule – bedtime is at 9 and I stick to that. It is very helpful to read about other people having met the same challenges we have and the way they deal with them. So THANK YOU

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