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Ten ways to Help a New Mom (Visiting Is NOT One of Them!)

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As a new mom your emotions are running high and your energy is at an all time low. While you want to show off your precious bundle, you may have older kids at home adjusting to the new dynamics, you are recovering from labor and/ or surgery and quite frankly – having a parade of (well-meaning) loved ones might not be what you NEED right now. But that doesn’t mean that you couldn’t use a helping hand – or two.

There are many ways that loved ones can step up and help the new parents – without sitting on your couch expecting detailed accounts of which breast he nursed from last. Share my list of “Ten Ways to Help a New Mom!” with your friends and relatives – they ARE willing to help, but may just need some direction.

Ten Ways to HELP a New Mom! Visiting is NOT One of Them!

Ten Meaningful Ways to Help a New Mom (Without Sitting on Her Couch):

1. Deliver a meal! Bring the hungry mama a good healthy meal. Don’t forget to add something for the kids and husband to eat as well. Ask about dietary restrictions ahead of time.
2. Coordinate a meal train from friends! leave a cooler on her porch for easy delivery. mealtrain.com is a wonderful interactive website to set up a running schedule of meals, times and special instructions.
3. Host playdates for siblings, away from her house, as long as your kids are healthy! I might just repeat for extra effect: as long as your kids are healthy – the last things the new mama needs is to wrangle sick kids and try to keep a baby healthy!

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Read the rest of my list over at Tales of Beauty for Ashes where I am guest blogging today. While you are there, read Becky’s latest articles about her pregnancy journey. She is a great story teller – with an incredible tale to tell!

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  1. Katie M says

    April 17, 2015 at 6:07 PM

    I was so thankful when family members brought over meals. It’s just one less thing to worry about and it’s so nice.

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  2. Nina says

    April 18, 2015 at 4:37 PM

    Left my comment there, but fully agree that visiting isn’t always ideal!

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  3. Laura F. says

    April 19, 2015 at 4:05 PM

    Yes, so agree! Although for me personally, I NEVER minded visitors. I felt like it always helped me, even emotionally, to have friends around during those first few weeks when my hormones were out of control.

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    • Mrs W says

      October 4, 2015 at 1:41 PM

      I agree with Laura; I think I wouldn’t have been so depressed if I had more visitors, but no, I wouldn’t want somebody around that would cause some friction that Stephanie mentioned : ).

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  4. Stephanie V says

    April 21, 2015 at 12:46 AM

    This is a wonderful read. If all works out and I get to deliver around my edd, I agree the last thing I want is people visiting, especially for several days. As of right now, my inlaws are flying in the day after my edd to see the baby and spend a week with us. I love them to death, but seriously doubt I can handle my mil after giving birth as we butt heads.

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    • Mama in the Now says

      April 21, 2015 at 8:20 AM

      GOOD LUCK! My best advice: hide in bed with the baby and let her clean! (works like a charm!) 🙂

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      • Kelsey Adare says

        October 21, 2015 at 4:26 PM

        That is fantastic advice!!!

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  5. Anel says

    April 21, 2015 at 4:21 PM

    Great advice. A meal train helped me out so much! I definitely didn’t want visitors right away!

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  6. Kaycee @ My Crafty Zoo says

    April 22, 2015 at 8:41 AM

    These are great ideas. I’m hoping my friends will do a meal train for us when baby goes home from the hospital. Heaven knows we are going to need it!

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  7. terry myers says

    April 23, 2015 at 5:29 PM

    Gift hard would be better you could mail them to the new Mom and dad ex.subway card

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  8. pollylee says

    April 26, 2015 at 2:34 PM

    The best gift was when friends took my son for a few hours so I could have time with the baby. He loved it and was such a big help to me

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  9. milamyk says

    May 2, 2015 at 7:11 AM

    I love ‘deliver a meal’ one- such a great surprise for a new momma! I hope you will share your helpful advice with our Link Up – Idea box:
    http://milaslittlethings.com/2015/04/idea-box-thursday-link-party-8.html

    xx
    Mila

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    • Mama in the Now says

      May 2, 2015 at 11:02 PM

      Thank you so much for stopping by. I will definitely check out your link up!

      Reply
  10. mommy says

    May 13, 2015 at 4:55 PM

    Awe I loved the visitors who wanted to listen to me ramble on about my birthing experience. But meals and babysitting older kids were amazing! Also, come hold baby while mom takes a shower!!

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  11. Dandi D says

    June 20, 2015 at 7:03 AM

    I wish more people would have a better awareness of how to best help a new mom.

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  12. Cassidy Cruise says

    October 15, 2015 at 2:30 PM

    Just read your whole guest post and loved it! My favorite was a basket of strawberries. People love to bring you carbs and dinners (which rocks) but I always run out of fruit and vegetables so it was great to get that as a gift, especially since when I send my husband to the grocery store he calls me a dozen times. (“What’s a roma tomato?”)

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  13. Laura says

    December 11, 2015 at 1:01 PM

    Great post! If you don’t live close to the new mom and you want to help her out with a meal, you can send a gourmet meal from http://www.MealGifts.com. I send these meals to my friends who live close as well because I’m not a great cook 🙂

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    • Mama in the Now says

      December 11, 2015 at 8:44 PM

      I have never heard of these – what a great idea. Thanks for sharing! (I am not a good cook either!)

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  14. Amanda Carter says

    December 21, 2015 at 5:18 PM

    It will only show me 3 ways to help a new mom?

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    • Mama in the Now says

      December 24, 2015 at 3:28 PM

      There is a link at the bottom of post. It will take you to all the rest of them… check it out!

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  15. Emma says

    January 27, 2018 at 2:28 PM

    There should be an unspoken rule about not having visitors for the first 3 weeks, especially for new moms. It should be a time for mom and baby to bond. I had my baby on December 5, 2017. I had a really hard time with the string of visitors that lasted a month and a half. It was really hard to breastfeed when visitors were around and of course visitors are present during the day when a newborn sleeps the most! I could’ve used that time to sleep myself but no, I couldn’t, because I had visitors. When I figured this out the first week, after a friend came over for a 3 hour visit with her husband and 2 toddlers, from then on I told my friends I will let them know a convenient time to visit the baby.

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